“A flower has fallen into the water

Its petals spread wide to show their beauty to the world

It is caught by the falling tide

And carried to the ocean

Of our God”

(Maori tangi pouri)

Part of our human need to make sense of life and death, is looking for ways to mark the death of a loved one. Flowers at a funeral, and later, to place on a grave, are all part of this.

I’ve noticed a growing trend in our village churchyard to have plants and bulbs growing freely either on or round a grave – symbols of the cycle of life and hope for new beginnings.

Sometimes it’s not possible to regularly visit and tend a loved one’s grave, and flower arrangements that have wilted are removed by the caretakers. I have often spoken with bereaved clients who have found a favourite plant or tree to pot up in their garden. It becomes a tender reminder of their beloved person, bringing solace in its continuing growth and flourishing, as a focal point for loving memories.

Silk memorial flowers can be a comfort placed in your home, where they will bring you sweetness and small joys every day. This can be on a shelf, a mantel, in a quiet corner – or in your garden. You can choose favourite flowers and colours, irrespective of the season. The ultra realism of quality silk flowers make them an affordable and sustainable option.

Silk flowers also do surprisingly well outside. I spray them with stuff that protects the petals and colours from UV light, so they stay bright and vibrant for ages.